Living in lockdown has helped some people make improvements in their careers and personal lives. (Photo: Getty Images stock)

Silver linings can be few and far between during the coronavirus pandemic. The crisis has brought upheaval to countless lives but some folks are getting through it by focusing on the unexpected positive changes theyve experienced since entering lockdown mode.

Aisha Moore, a health educator and self-care expert, tells Yahoo Life that being around her husband of nine years 24/7 has allowed the couple to resolve communication issues, be more mindful of their relationship and spend more quality time together at home. Hypnotherapist Penny Ling is sleeping better at night and feeling more productive since replacing her commutes into the office with virtual therapy sessions. And Michael James Nuells, who works in the entertainment industry, says that the lockdown helped him sever ties for good with an extremely toxic ex hed split with shortly before Los Angeles County implemented stay-at-home orders; by quarantining separately, hes been able to cut off contact, heal through activities like yoga and journaling, and focus on getting back to self-love and self-worth.

Heather, a therapist based in Rhode Island who prefers not to disclose her real name, is also using her time in self-isolation to move on from a break-up. In her case, its her impending divorce after a year and a half of separation. Going into lockdown, during which she shares custody of her two children, coincided neatly with her transition to the happily divorced stage of life. When her kids are with her ex, shes pursuing new passions, including gardening with a friend at a safe distance, listening to empowering, women-centric podcasts and cooking. (Now I kind of get why people love to cook, for the first time in my life, she laughs.)

Im appreciating a simple life, she tells Yahoo Life. Im appreciating not being in the car, and doing pickup/drop-off, running around with my head cut off. I am not generally a homebody actually, but I am enjoying being in my home and not having the pressure of going here, there and everywhere.

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Working remotely by offering online therapy sessions something she hopes to continue post-pandemic has offered a nice escape from her typical rushed routine, but it also hammers in just how good she has it compared to others.

Im very aware of my privilege, she says, adding, I do feel a little guilty about it when I talk to people who are miserable. We are in a pandemic, which is horrifying and horrible, and I would like it to end. However, here we are, and its not ending anytime soon.

Ruth Bienstock, who owns the Outlette jewelry boutique on New York Citys Upper West Side, also admits juggling conflicting feelings about how quarantine has impacted her life. Running a small, non-essential business during a pandemic has been a challenge, and like everyone else, shes anguished by the grim news headlines. But having less work and more time with her two children who were forced to come home from college and are now quarantining with Bienstock and her ex-husband, who has also moved into her home has been a blessing.

I know whats going on, she says. I know the tragedy. Its not that Im totally removed from the reality of this thing. But I also know that two realities can happen at the same time. I feel the pain of everyone else. I miss certain things about life from before.

But working to the point of exhaustion while missing out on quality family time is not one of them.

Having a retail business for six years has meant us working practically every single weekend, says Bienstock, who runs her shop with her ex. So its been years of me having to leave the kids on a Saturday morning, having to leave the kids on a Sunday morning, and just watching people be with their kids over a weekend and not having that. ... All those weekends, were getting them back with our kids.

In quarantine, the former couple has established a happy family unit in a new normal weird sort of way. Bienstock is soaking it all up and picking up new hobbies, from painting to online Scrabble to becoming a culinary goddess.

I would get home from work exhausted at 8 oclock, and then all you would hear is a symphony of beeps from the microwave, she tells Yahoo Life. Now Im cooking, which is unbelievable ... I am now like Harriet from Ozzy & Harriet. All I want to do is nurture and feed.

Family dinners arent the only blissful aspect shes experienced. Despite running a fashion business, Bienstock has embraced a new life free from worrying about outward appearances (I dont think I could ever wear a zipper again, she quips) and has made her spirituality a priority, too.

I started meditating, she says in disbelief. Im bloody Eat Pray Love the reincarnate.

Dr. Jen Hartstein, a psychologist and Yahoo Life Mental Health Contributor, says its natural that the forced downtime of quarantine would prompt people to press pause and reflect on the positive changes more family time, a more rewarding career, a better relationship they can make in the long term.

The quarantine has its host of challenges for many of us, and, at the same time, does offer us some benefits, she tells Yahoo Life. Most of us do not expect to have as much time with family, with ourselves, just quiet, in our lives as we might have now. This opportunity allows us space to think about what we want to do with our time differently, now and moving into the future.

Forced downtime, which many of us have because we arent commuting or running around like we did, allows for increased connection and creativity. It allows us to reflect on our life and figure out what is working, and what is not. Although there is a lot out there to create anxiety and worry, inside, take the time and see what positive changes you want to make in your life and begin to make them. As you practice these changes, you can bring them into your life as a whole.

Finding silver linings may at times feel selfish, but focusing on the positive aspects of this experience can help people cope during a trying time.

Theres no need to feel guilty about making changes, Dr. Hartstein says. They may be exactly what you need and want.

Bienstock says she tries to count her blessings and cut herself slack for enjoying certain aspects of her life in lockdown.

I absolutely feel guilty because I do know whats going on out there, she says. I do feel guilt, and then I kind of work through it and I realize I can have dual feelings. I can enjoy this and then feel the other feelings as well.

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